The World Health Organization estimates that one person dies of suicide every 40 seconds. While that statistic is devastating enough, it’s only part of the story: for each adult who dies by suicide, there may be over 20 others who attempt it. Whether those people changed their mind on their own or benefited from intervention, it’s important to remember that people considering suicide do not necessarily want to end their lives—they want to escape unbearable suffering.
Talking openly about suicidal thoughts can save lives, so if a friend or family member is showing warning signs of suicide, don’t hesitate to offer your help. They will likely need additional professional help to address the underlying causes of their suffering, but before that step, here’s what you can do to help prevent suicide:
Watch for warning signs
The most obvious warning sign for suicide is talking about suicide or self-harm. Phrases such as “I wish I was dead”, “I wish I was never born”, and “you’d be better off without me” are of particular concern. Other warning signs include:
- Seeking access to guns, pills, drugs, razor blades, ropes, and other objects that could be used to attempt suicide
- Preoccupation with death, including writing stories or poems about dying
- Withdrawal from friends and family, social isolating, and neglect of appearance
- Major changes in eating or sleeping habits
- Self-destructive and risky behaviors, such as reckless driving and increased drug and alcohol use
- Preparations for death, including making a will and giving away possessions
- Unexpected visits, calls, or emails to family and friends that indicate the person is saying goodbye
Additionally, a sudden sense of calm and happiness after extreme depression is a common warning sign of suicide that many people mistake as a sign the person is getting better. On the contrary, it usually indicates the person has decided to attempt suicide and they are at peace with their decision. However, it’s important to note that people who attempt suicide usually waver between wanting to live and wanting to end their life until the last moment, so even someone who is seems determined can be persuaded otherwise.
Evaluate the risk level
Not everyone with suicidal thoughts is at immediate risk for suicide, so it’s important to evaluate the person’s risk level and act accordingly. A low suicide risk means the person has some suicidal thoughts, but no plans or means (gun, pills, drugs, etc.), and no stated determination to attempt it. A moderate level of risk involves suicidal thoughts and a vague plan, while a high risk involves a specific plan that is highly lethal. With moderate and high risk levels, the person might still say they won’t attempt suicide, but once someone has a detailed plan and a stated determination to end their life, consider it a severe risk.
Speak up and show you care
Regardless of the risk level, if you recognize any of the warning signs of suicide, ask the person directly if they are having suicidal thoughts. It’s normal for such a conversation to be uncomfortable, but it will allow them to express their feelings and relieve the burden of loneliness and pent-up negativity. The most important thing about speaking up is making it clear you care about them and their wellbeing, and letting them know they’re not alone. You don’t have to fully understand the reasons behind someone’s desire to attempt suicide to help prevent it—just listen, show sympathy, and offer hope. Suicidal feelings are temporary, so let the person know you are there to help see them through.
Offer help and follow up
Helping someone who is considering suicide takes a lot of courage, from initiating a conversation to assisting them in seeking professional help. But setting up an appointment with a mental health professional or treatment facility is only the beginning. Keep in regular contact during treatment and afterward, and help them make a safety plan in case the suicidal thoughts return. Once the immediate crisis has passed, your support is still important, so continue to stay in contact and watch for warning signs that might re-emerge.
Mental health treatment in San Diego
If you have a loved one exhibiting warning signs of suicide, getting them professional treatment is the most effective way to prevent a suicide attempt. At Alvarado Parkway Institute, we offer a variety of mental health and intervention services, and our compassionate staff is dedicated to guiding patients out of crisis and into a place of hope, serenity, and optimism. For more information, fill out our contact form or call our 24/7 crisis and info hotline at 619-667-6125.
